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Life in General « Page 5

Life in General


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The “Just as I am Challenge”


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I was just tagged by Krissy Poopyhands, who was inspired by the fabulous Flabuless. I think this is an excellent mission; but this is going to be difficult. Here are the requirements as written by Flabuless:

So I challenge other bloggers out there to take part in the same life changing exercise…Instead of concentrating on the negative points of why you want to loose weight and what you hate about yourself…how about writing 5 points about who you are and why you are ok just like that, they can be quirky, embarrassing, brutally honest, boring it doesn’t matter…You are perfect, you are unique and you should accept yourself with all your quirks–’Just as you are’…Make sure you write it honestly and positively as I have done above. It will be a list that you might need to revisit every day for the next year to remind yourself, that you are ok, and your life is going to turn out ok…but more importantly it will be an affirmation to yourself and the first step in appreciating YOU just as you are.

Here’s how it works…Take up the challenge yourself then choose 5 people to tag…list those chosen ones on your blog under your entry and then visit their blog and write them a comment letting them know they have been ‘tagged’ to take part in the challenge…keep track of who participates and record their links on your blog as they post their entries.Eventually we will be able to follow a trail from everyone’s blog linking to other blogs and their tagged blogs etc…it could be huge… Tell your blogging mates…and lets start a craze and grow and learn to love ourselves through doing this.Plus, inspired by 2kbloggers, my dream is to set up a photo montage, of ALL who participate, with links back to their individual blog posts…Now I am getting goose bumps…IMAGINE a photo montage of 2,000 ‘Fatbloggers’ accepting themselves…Just as they are! Ok, Ok so I am thinking Big!!!! I always do…but if you think this is a neat idea then get onboard and lets start making an impact sort of like the ‘pay it forward’ phenomenon. And if you would like to be on the montage…start sending me your photo’s with links to your challenge post…so that I can set it up.

So here it goes – 5 positive things about me:

1. I am funny. I think my humor would be considered “dry”. I love to laugh and I love to make people laugh. And I do.
2. I have great ankles. It’s one part of my body that I’ve always loved. Great ankles – flow nicely into my feet (which aren’t bad either).
3. I am ambitious, driven and an eternal optimist. I do love that about myself. If something needs to get done – I will get it done. I can keep my spirit up in the worst of times and I can pass that on to others in need.
4. I have great hair. It’s thick, bouncy and it’s always been a great color (it gets a little help now!)
5. I am artistically talented. I do love that about myself. I can and do create. I can take something empty and void and make it vibrate.

That was difficult.

Now I’m going to tag 5 bloggers who, I hope are up to the Challenge -

1. Crabby McSlacker of Cranky Fitness – a list I would love to read
2. Emperor Anton of Pixelhead (my most favorite person)
3. The dude from TotalTransformation
4. ???

This was even more difficult than the actual challenge. I don’t out much (in the blogging community, that is) – and I hardly know anyone. So sad for me :(


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Fear of the scale


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I was looking back over past post at fatladysingz.com ’cause I thought I wrote a post about the ups and downs of my weight since I started this project. But, I can’t seem to find any. Those thoughts must not have ever left my head. But, here it goes… When I returned from my honeymoon – I stepped on the scale to find out that I was at the same weight that I started at. Now, I know there has definitely been weight loss over the past seven months, which means there has also been weight gain.Since the honeymoon – I recommitted myself to, well exercise and get back to dieting or at least making healthy food choices. Which I did for a time (the food choices, that is). But, we went away again, as did the healthy food – and now I’m afraid to get on the scale. I’m certain that I may have risen above the start weight and I’m scared to death to find out. What brought all of this to my attention again was, while reading the weekly weigh-in at The Incredible Shrinking Ladies – I noticed that Lady Rose was up one pound – not too bad. Then I made my way over to the summary of her weight loss – and it was very impressive!
Why can’t I stick with any diet?


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OBX for the Week


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Hello to Fatladysingz readers, this is the Emperor on behalf of Lizzie. In response to the events of Lizzie’s previous post, Lizzie will be convalescing in the OBX next week. She is busy packing at the moment and she asked me to write a little post for her.Avon OBX

Jenny will be staying at home, but I will do my darnedest to insure that she makes good food choices while vacationing. She does love crab cakes and good salads for sure.

I am also sure she will make daily posts since the OBX rental she procured has not only a pool and a hot tub, but wifi as well.

Hopefully we will be able to eat at some restaurants other than Sonic or McDonald’s, but I am not sure how many places will be open this early in the season.


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A Bizarre Diversion


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There have been a few incidents in my life in the past that don’t even come close to seeming plausible. Anytime that I find myself telling bits and pieces of the story again… I’m certain that it really couldn’t have happened. I didn’t think I’d be revisiting this again – at least not this soon. Here’s a tiny bit of background.

I announced a few months ago that I was divorced – well, obviously at some time prior – I had been married. I don’t think I went into much, if any, details of the marriage. I had been married to someone who turned out to be a criminal. He put me and our four kids through hell. There wasn’t any physical abuse – in fact, he was a gentle soul; but, he was manipulative, evil and a self-proclaimed sociopath. The last time we saw him was February 2003 when he was over at my house to visit our kids. The court imposed supervised visitation for him – because I was so scared about him taking off with the kids and I’d never see them again. It wasn’t that he wanted the kids – he had been gone for three years preceding this without even a phone call for months at a time – it was that no one was going to tell him what he could or couldn’t do with his kids.

Anyway, the last time we saw him corresponded to a bench warrant being filed for failure to pay child support. At 9 o’clock in the evening I asked him to leave my house. He said no and after about 30 minutes of him not leaving – I called the police. They removed him from my house. At that time – I knew we’d never see him again. This was very calculated. It made me look like “the bad guy” to the kids – and that’s what he wanted in the kids minds for the last time they were going to see him.

At that time our kids were 7, 11, 13 and 14. I anticipated that he would return someday – most likely when our youngest was 18 or older. I also knew he’d probably remain in the greater Philadelphia area and he assume a new identity – otherwise he’d be found and have to pay the $1600 per month that the court ordered. Stealing identities wasn’t anything new to him. When we were first separated and my lawyer said to find out anything I could about his financial life – I found a number of social security cards, passports and other information in his possession with his photos.

Over the years that he’d been gone – I’d kept up a brief email relationship with his mother. In fact, it was his mother that made it possible for me to actually get divorced. It took a lot longer and cost a lot more money for me to get divorced – because he basically didn’t exist. And due to the fact that I didn’t ever get any child support – money was tight. But, I did get divorced.

This past Wednesday night at 10PM – I got a call from his mother and she said that Spencer’s dead. I knew he’d come back – but I never suspected that it would be in this capacity. When she told me – I think I was just in shock. I had no idea what to say, think or do. My biggest concern was the kids. They barely knew there father – especially the youngest. He wasn’t around for them to see how bizarre and evil he was – they’d built him up to be something he definitely never deserved.

The two following days were filled with a lot of calls from people I hadn’t heard from in years; a wide range of emotions from sadness to anger to euphoria; and the strange and depraved behavior of this man continues even after he does. I find myself on my way to the Philadelphia morgue to identify the body. Normally I would not have chosen to do this – but before he left me, he told me that he was going to fake his own death; funnel insurance money through his evil brother; and I’d never find the body. For this reason, it was really important to me to see his dead body.

When I was sitting at the morgue, talking to the medical examiner – there had been some confusion as to who this body belonged to. At that point I was told that Spencer had been married for three years. His name was that of a dead person he assumed (he told me exactly how he did this over the years) and he was married to some woman who was also an unknowing victim. Strange because I thought that I was still married to the man as of February 2007.

This man, who I put through Lehigh University as a mechanical engineer, was working as a carpenter and living in the basement of a building he was working on and using and I was told by the police and medical examiner that he was most likely dealing heroin – which is what ultimately killed him. They also told me that the wife wasn’t aware that she wasn’t married to a person that didn’t exist until he died. His evil brother was aware of the situation and continued to keep up his charade so he wouldn’t have to pay child support to our kids.

This was an exhausting experience, but I came out of it feeling free and I hope that because the kids had very little to do with their father – especially for the past 9 years – they’re doing ok too.

That was the very condensed version of the past few days. Needless to say – my diet’s gone to hell.


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Is it Possible to Make Money Online?


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Make Money OnlineThis is a little off subject, but in order to make money online, which is a goal of mine and many other bloggers – I wanted to write a post about a possible about just that. I’ve spent the bulk of my career in web development, which rapidly evolved to search engine marketing. Once I started doing that – I was totally sucked in, like most people who get into SEO/M.

One resource that I’ve used over the years in Linkworth. Recently the trend in effective SEO has moved from on page optimization to off page optimization which is link building. There are boundless web directories available to submit web sites, but I believe they are becoming like link farms, offering no quality and the can potentially hurt your search engine rankings.

Anyway, that’s where resources such as Linkworth have become very valuable. They offer opportunities to find good, relevant web sites to supply links to your web sites. This is what is now known as text link advertising. You can find quality web sites to build authority in your web site.


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Another Weekend Away


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This weekend we’re going into Philadelphia for the Real Estate & Wealth Expo. I got the tickets for this event at a substantial discount when making a pledge to the local PBS station. Part of my work is to review hotels and restaurants – and this, we thought was a good time to do more reviews.

Even though the show is just Saturday and Sunday – we decided to go down Friday night and get the opportunity to stay at two different hotels. Tonight we’ll be staying at The Club Quarters at 17th & Chestnut Sts. in Philly. Saturday night we’ll be at the Sofitel, which is at 17th & Sansom Sts. I didn’t know the hotels were across the street from each other when I made the reservations, but that works out well.

I did some research before making these hotel reservations… the Sofitel had amazing reviews. All of them were excellent at this 4 star Philadelphia hotel except for one. But, The Club Quarters was a bit different. Half of the reviews were excellent, with #5 ratings (the highest rating you can give a hotel on TripAdvisor) and the other half were #1. There weren’t any in between. Needless to say – I’ve very curious to see what kind of experience we’ll have. The Emperor would probably assume that I won’t like. He believes that I’m very difficult to please – at least when it comes to hotels. I try to never stay in a hotel that’s below 3 and a half stars. I grew up going to 1 – 3 star hotels; spent my college and earlier adult years going to those chain, road hotels – but, I’m too old for them now.
We’ll also be reviewing at least one restaurant – which will take me away from Jenny. But, I’m determined to eat well and make good choices.

More reviews to come.


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Gotta Get Goals Cont…


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Ok, so apparently I’ve been tagged. This is all new to me, but Emperor Anton tagged me in some sort of goal-setting project started by some other blogger, who tagged him. Goals are always good – so, I’m on board with this. And one of his goals is to marry me! so, I will definitely accommodate.

Personal Goals:

  • lose weight! ha… at least the 15lbs I originally set out to lose.
  • exercise 4 times a week, or buy an elliptical machine for the office
  • Get my son on track
  • Marry the Emperor… since his goal is to marry me – it’s the least I can do to help him with his goal!
  • Travel to one exotic place where we’ve never been

Business/Financial

  • Stop spending and start saving
  • Sign on two large clients each quarter
  • Delegate more, do less
  • Double my income

Tagging

I now need to tag a minimum of five people. So here it goes… KrissyPoopyhands, Blessed1. jafabrit, LadyRose, and dutchkids

I think that’s it.