My father’s in the hospital recovering from surgery that removed his cancer-ridden bladder and recreated a new bladder from his intestine. He has a bad heart, but his cardiologist gave him the ok for this procedure. The surgery was over 9 hours long. It did bring a good bit of the family together again. But, due to the craziness of running back and forth to the hospital; making alternative arrangements for the children; and seeing to my mother - making good food choices has not been achieved.
One part of me says that this event has provided an excuse to eat whatever I want. While another part says that I’m being too hard on myself and let’s just make it through the drama as best as I can. I’m not sure that any of this matters, but what it boils down to is that I’ve lost my motivation to lose weight. I’m really not sure how much motivation I started with.
I’m not sure how to get motivated again. Intellectually, I know it’s best for my health to lose a few pounds; I know I feel better about myself when I’m down 10-20 pounds; I know that this is what I’ve set out to do - so I should just do it.
Not sure how to get motivated again.
Any thoughts?
Posted on May 15th, 2007 by lizzie
Filed under: Weight Loss Ramblings
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Sometimes you just have to eat healthy even when you are NOT motivated. Don’t worry about “dieting” — focus on making healthy choices - get items that are fast and convenient but healthy so you can focus your time and energy on you and your family during times like these. Don’t try to fake motivation — it only adds to feeling worse because you probably can’t keep up fake motivation. There are lots of decent frozen low calorie meals out there, diet bread and lean turkey slices make a quick sandwich, carry apples and protein bars with you so you don’t hit the vending machines.
On days when I am going through a rough spot I try to drag myself through it by approaching eating healthy the same way I do brushing my teeth — it must be done - doesn’t matter that I don’t feel like it. When the inner voices starts nagging with “but you so deserve a break, life sucks we would feel so much better eating ice cream (or whatever), nothing matters you are tired just eat anything, etc. etc. — I politely remind my inner voice to shut up and have back up ways to nurture myself (rather then food) - bubble bath, a few minutes a day of quiet time - listening to favorite music or reading a book.
Will keep you and your day in my thoughts and prayers. Lady Rose
eating healthy regardless? Who would have thunk!
Good advice - thanks!
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